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TOPIC: Phone call from CAB

Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39213

  • RachelPotter
I am close to tears, as part of my depression/anxiety I do not cope with change well.

In my first post I stated that the CAB would not help me, now out of the blue I have just received a phonecall from a woman at the local CAB asking me how I was getting on!

Her boss, the one who had said they could not help, asked this woman to phone me on Dec 7th to offer help once I had received a tribunal date.

They are also offering to come with me!

I know to some this might sound fantastic news but I just feel really awful!

Do you think I should take them up on their offer, or go it alone? Opinion, rather than advice, as I know you cannot advise on individual cases.

Many thanks,


Rachel


Mod Edit - as more a question than discussion topic - moved to questions forum.

Pete

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Re:Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39217

Fedup wrote:

I am close to tears, as part of my depression/anxiety I do not cope with change well.

In my first post I stated that the CAB would not help me, now out of the blue I have just received a phonecall from a woman at the local CAB asking me how I was getting on!

Her boss, the one who had said they could not help, asked this woman to phone me on Dec 7th to offer help once I had received a tribunal date.

They are also offering to come with me!

I know to some this might sound fantastic news but I just feel really awful!

Do you think I should take them up on their offer, or go it alone? Opinion, rather than advice, as I know you cannot advise on individual cases.

Many thanks,


Rachel


Mod Edit - as more a question than discussion topic - moved to questions forum.

Pete




Hi,

To be honest, any good help and support is better than none.

Would it be possible to arrange a meeting with the person prior to the appeal, both in order you maybe more 'comfirtable' with the advisor having previously met and also to form a way ahead for the appeal?

Pete

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Re:Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39228

  • RachelPotter
Hi Pete, thanks for your reply. I think I will arrange to meet her when I have got a date for my tribunal.

I do admit I have deep seated prejudices and I apologise most sincerely to anybody who this offends!....

the people who work at my local CAB are wealthy women of a certain age.

I do not doubt their integrity, selflessness or intelligence, I guess it is more of an inferiority complex on my part?!

But Pete I will meet with her and see how she makes me feel, cos as you said, any good help is better than none.

Many thanks,
Rachel

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Re:Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39246

  • Survivor
When you feel tempted to feel inferior, consider this. Maybe they're doing it because otherwise they feel useless. Maybe they retired early and then found it wasn't all it was cracked up to be no longer having a career, or maybe they have husbands who don't like them to work.

I'm not saying feel sorry for them, I'm just saying try to find a connection with them because I don't think many stick it for more than a short while unless they are committed to what they are doing.

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Re:Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39247

  • RachelPotter
Thankyou for your wise words Suvivor!

It's incredibly difficult to rid oneself of the 'I am a failure' persona!

Best wishes,
Rachel

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Re:Phone call from CAB 8 years 7 months ago #39249

  • Survivor
Fedup wrote:

It's incredibly difficult to rid oneself of the 'I am a failure' persona!


I know it well. I think it often goes with depression, or at least it does with mine and that of so many people I know.

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