Hi Susie
As you are in receipt of IR ESA then any income your partner receives will be deducted £ for £ from IR ESA.
I would advise you to seek help from your local Welfare Rights Organisation;
advicelocal.uk in regards to your benefit entitlement once your partner reaches state pension age as your IR ESA will stop.
I would also advise you to speak to the Pension Service;
www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en/pensions-and-retirement/pension-wise for advise about your pensions.
Gary