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14 hours 14 minutes ago #311586 by sera
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I have a couple of questions about becoming an appointee for my nephew who lives with me . He has autism and profound mental health problems.
1. how long will the process take?
2. What ID documents do I need to show , before the appointeeship visit can begin?
3. I might like to rearrange the appointeeship visit. Can I have more time to consider becoming an appointee?? Also I am finding, our family is finding life stressful atm. My health and disability are both challenging. Everything to do with applying for pip was thrown at us, I feel, by my nephews mother who was holding onto appointeeship incorrectly , in name only.
I had explained to her that I wanted to make sure that there was medical evidence first, before applying for pip, which there wasn’t, but she didn’t listen and the pip form just arrived out of the blue. So we requested a mental health / psych referral for my nephew, who has enormous ,profound and urgent issues that have never been ran past a mental health team ever . Shockingly and much to our GPs dismay the mental health referral was refused. So we are still in the process of waiting for an appointment.
I’ve only been told very recently by my nephews mother that I must be an appointee, I had to agree straightaway, and my nephew and I need more time to process everything . My nephew spends vast vast vast amounts of my money. He has nothing to show for it. We can only think that it goes on gambling and that he is a compulsive gambler. He is in complete denial, and in total cloud cuckoo land. We doubt very much if his mother is aware. He has no outgoings whatsoever and doesn’t have to pay keep and everything whatsoever is bought for him.
I helped to submit a pip claim for my nephew. When my nephew was a child, his mother claimed the full amount of DLA for him, and his mother was the appointee. When my nephew turned 16 or 17, the government took this benefit off him. His mother made a pip claim for him that was unsuccessful.
*I am very sorry that this background is so long winded. I just want to make sure that you have some of the facts in this complicated claim*
Since my nephew has been 16 or 17, he has been living with me and my mum and dad and his dad all in one house. My nephew is now 28 and has not claimed pip or any other benefit in all that time - I have supported him.
His mother remained an appointee in name only. I have some months ago helped my nephew to submit a pip claim. When the pip claim was submitted, we were told to tell his mother to relinquish her appointeeship straightaway which she didn’t
Up until a few weeks ago, his mother was still the appointee. Unbeknown to us she was in contact with the dwp talking about appointeeships. She insisted to my family that the claim that had been submitted would go better if there was an appointee. Among our family members , I am the best person to be my nephews appointee , although my mother would also consider being his appointee.
I am significantly disabled and my mum is a very busy 73 year old
So, we were contacted about a week ago by my nephews mother., it was put to us totally out of the blue that the claim would go better if there was an appointee and we had to decide almost there and then who was to be my nephews appointee, because she needed to phone the dwp back straightaway.
*Nothing was set out to me about the responsibilities of being an appointee.*
We told my nephews mother that I would be the appointee, and she told the dwp.
I have recently been contacted by the dwp, who want to interview me about becoming an appointee. Upon receiving this letter I googled becoming an appointee. So I have only just learned what it involves.
I haven’t been given a date for the interview yet. I would like to reschedule the interview. A big reason for me wanting to reschedule is that I’ve not had enough time to consider, and my nephew was just told you’re having an appointee, without knowing what it involves.
My “useable hours” are limited due to long drawn out pain flares every day and health issues. I am helped out by my parents no end, due to the nature of my disability. Our lives are stressful for a number of reasons.
I would like to push back the appointeeship interview date when it arrives, I’d like it to be further into the future?
Noting what I have outlined above, Is the fact that my nephew and I need more time to consider the appointeeship an acceptable reason for more time to be granted in the dwp’s eyes ?
What other reasons for rescheduling will the dwp consider ?
Thank you very much for reading
Sarah
I have a couple of questions about becoming an appointee for my nephew who lives with me . He has autism and profound mental health problems.
1. how long will the process take?
2. What ID documents do I need to show , before the appointeeship visit can begin?
3. I might like to rearrange the appointeeship visit. Can I have more time to consider becoming an appointee?? Also I am finding, our family is finding life stressful atm. My health and disability are both challenging. Everything to do with applying for pip was thrown at us, I feel, by my nephews mother who was holding onto appointeeship incorrectly , in name only.
I had explained to her that I wanted to make sure that there was medical evidence first, before applying for pip, which there wasn’t, but she didn’t listen and the pip form just arrived out of the blue. So we requested a mental health / psych referral for my nephew, who has enormous ,profound and urgent issues that have never been ran past a mental health team ever . Shockingly and much to our GPs dismay the mental health referral was refused. So we are still in the process of waiting for an appointment.
I’ve only been told very recently by my nephews mother that I must be an appointee, I had to agree straightaway, and my nephew and I need more time to process everything . My nephew spends vast vast vast amounts of my money. He has nothing to show for it. We can only think that it goes on gambling and that he is a compulsive gambler. He is in complete denial, and in total cloud cuckoo land. We doubt very much if his mother is aware. He has no outgoings whatsoever and doesn’t have to pay keep and everything whatsoever is bought for him.
I helped to submit a pip claim for my nephew. When my nephew was a child, his mother claimed the full amount of DLA for him, and his mother was the appointee. When my nephew turned 16 or 17, the government took this benefit off him. His mother made a pip claim for him that was unsuccessful.
*I am very sorry that this background is so long winded. I just want to make sure that you have some of the facts in this complicated claim*
Since my nephew has been 16 or 17, he has been living with me and my mum and dad and his dad all in one house. My nephew is now 28 and has not claimed pip or any other benefit in all that time - I have supported him.
His mother remained an appointee in name only. I have some months ago helped my nephew to submit a pip claim. When the pip claim was submitted, we were told to tell his mother to relinquish her appointeeship straightaway which she didn’t
Up until a few weeks ago, his mother was still the appointee. Unbeknown to us she was in contact with the dwp talking about appointeeships. She insisted to my family that the claim that had been submitted would go better if there was an appointee. Among our family members , I am the best person to be my nephews appointee , although my mother would also consider being his appointee.
I am significantly disabled and my mum is a very busy 73 year old
So, we were contacted about a week ago by my nephews mother., it was put to us totally out of the blue that the claim would go better if there was an appointee and we had to decide almost there and then who was to be my nephews appointee, because she needed to phone the dwp back straightaway.
*Nothing was set out to me about the responsibilities of being an appointee.*
We told my nephews mother that I would be the appointee, and she told the dwp.
I have recently been contacted by the dwp, who want to interview me about becoming an appointee. Upon receiving this letter I googled becoming an appointee. So I have only just learned what it involves.
I haven’t been given a date for the interview yet. I would like to reschedule the interview. A big reason for me wanting to reschedule is that I’ve not had enough time to consider, and my nephew was just told you’re having an appointee, without knowing what it involves.
My “useable hours” are limited due to long drawn out pain flares every day and health issues. I am helped out by my parents no end, due to the nature of my disability. Our lives are stressful for a number of reasons.
I would like to push back the appointeeship interview date when it arrives, I’d like it to be further into the future?
Noting what I have outlined above, Is the fact that my nephew and I need more time to consider the appointeeship an acceptable reason for more time to be granted in the dwp’s eyes ?
What other reasons for rescheduling will the dwp consider ?
Thank you very much for reading
Sarah
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9 hours 1 minute ago #311596 by BIS
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Replied by BIS on topic Questions about becoming an appointee
Hi Sera
I'm sorry you find yourself in this position.
1. The time it takes varies from one claimant to another. I became an appointee last year. The whole process took less than 15 minutes and it was live on the DWP system within 24hrs. I remember one of our members recently saying that it took three weeks for them to be confirmed.
2. They need to confirm your identity - things like a passport or driver's licence, a bank card and something with your address on it, like a utility bill. The utility bill may be hard for you, as I assume everything is in your parents' name - but there are other options.
3. If you don't want to be an appointee, you should not feel pressured to be so. Your nephew is not your responsibility. The DWP will want to know that you can fulfil the role. The appointee role itself can be easy or arduous, depending on what relationship you have with the claimant and what difficulties they have. Do you really want to be responsible for managing his money? The other issue is that your nephew also has to agree, unless you have medical evidence showing he is unable to make that decision. You can ask for the interview date to be delayed - the fact that you are not sure if you want to do the role will be enough for them. They don't want people doing it otherwise.
It is none of my business, but it sounds as if you are being manipulated by your aunt, and your parents are going along with this because your mother is already involved. How will your nephew act if you have control of his money and you won't give it to him to support his gambling habit? You say that you have challenging health issues that you need help with - do you need this on top of them? It is clear there are family dynamics that are personal to you, but please think very carefully before you take this on. It is not the appointee interview that you have to worry about - that is simple - the issue is, do you want to try and manage your nephew's affairs, and what impact could that potentially have on you?
BIS
I'm sorry you find yourself in this position.
1. The time it takes varies from one claimant to another. I became an appointee last year. The whole process took less than 15 minutes and it was live on the DWP system within 24hrs. I remember one of our members recently saying that it took three weeks for them to be confirmed.
2. They need to confirm your identity - things like a passport or driver's licence, a bank card and something with your address on it, like a utility bill. The utility bill may be hard for you, as I assume everything is in your parents' name - but there are other options.
3. If you don't want to be an appointee, you should not feel pressured to be so. Your nephew is not your responsibility. The DWP will want to know that you can fulfil the role. The appointee role itself can be easy or arduous, depending on what relationship you have with the claimant and what difficulties they have. Do you really want to be responsible for managing his money? The other issue is that your nephew also has to agree, unless you have medical evidence showing he is unable to make that decision. You can ask for the interview date to be delayed - the fact that you are not sure if you want to do the role will be enough for them. They don't want people doing it otherwise.
It is none of my business, but it sounds as if you are being manipulated by your aunt, and your parents are going along with this because your mother is already involved. How will your nephew act if you have control of his money and you won't give it to him to support his gambling habit? You say that you have challenging health issues that you need help with - do you need this on top of them? It is clear there are family dynamics that are personal to you, but please think very carefully before you take this on. It is not the appointee interview that you have to worry about - that is simple - the issue is, do you want to try and manage your nephew's affairs, and what impact could that potentially have on you?
BIS
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