preparing for worse case scenario advice?

When you say take any of my notes what do you mean?... do you mean prompts, reminders, or actual copy of the form I did. If its my assessment, why may they question my career?, I don't mind... just feels like they may overlook me, as I go so quiet, and no ask me, I dont have much control over things as it is, but would wish to speak for myself. Thanks for your prompt reply. I will keep you posted.

Hi again. How do you interpret certain questions you may be asked at a medical . for instance, I can only get out of home with assistance, and often can't do that. I probably get out about 6-8 times a year, an that's for Drs usually. I attempted corner shop 6months ago...2mins from my home with my son, but couldn't enter shop...I will keep trying. I have schizo affective disorder and panic disorder for 20years. if asked do I go local shop? how would I answer without making it seem I can do something when I actually cant, reliably and regular. I can't lie an say no, I may not go out for a year, but to the computer that won't count. I heard its best to stay on point and answer bluntly and directly, but its very complex sometimes to get anyone to fully understand. I'm so so tired of all this, I feel like giving in, and living on fresh air. can some answers be a simple yes or no. if they are no applicable can you explain more so they get a fuller picture. So sorry to be bothering you all again. The housework question if asked seems odd. some days I can't do any, some days I get help, its all erratic, and mood based... how would I answer this? I'm feeling such a failure now, having to tell someone face 2 face of my inadequacy is should destroying.

Hi Bunnydrop

You don't say whether you are expecting to have a face to face interview in the near future - but I think the main thing to remember about the whole situation is that you have to prove to be able to perform any function safely, reliably and repeatedly. If you can't say yes to an activity in any or all these three degrees, then you answer no!

Being able to go to the shop 6 - 8 times a year and then not being able to go into the shop is neither reliably nor repeatedly; you are not lying. It's not a complex issue, honestly - it is basic truth - you just can't do it when and how you would like, so no you can't do it. Even when you have someone to support you, it is out of your control.

So far as housework goes (for example) if you don't know from one day to another if you are going to be able to do it, going to feel like doing it or are going to need someone to do it for you - well again, this is neither reliably nor repeatedly. I honestly think you are being very hard on yourself here. If you're not well, you can't do it. End of story.

You are not a failure; if your body lets you down, or your mind won't let you cope, it is not your fault; and the people who assess you don't know what your life is like or what you have to deal with. You have to wonder how they would deal with your issues..

I hope I have been some help; it's very difficult to read your problems without becoming upset on your behalf. You really don't have to explain yourself - in a lot of cases a simple yes or no is the only answer you can give.

Thank you for your compassionate reply. I feel better now knowing I won't be seen as lying..as I dont want to get in trouble, but many things I can't do relabilay etc. I guess inworry they wouldn't believe me. and I'm so used to myself, I forget my weakness. I got the letter Friday and they want to see me march 30..quite soon. I'm worried re eye contact etc, as I'm opposite. I do too much eye contact, I can't help it, I stare, over stare. I wear hearing aids also. but unread bipolar depressed pole would been seen to have less eye contact. I guess I have to just be me an hope for the best. I'm in support vrop at Mo, got it with no medical last time. thanks so much for your kind words . I will say no as needed an dfor yes questions like do I have a dog, make sure I explain, I don't take it out, someone dose that, as I have agoraphobia.

Sorry I keep asking questions. Thought we, me and career better ask before easter. I'm in support group. got in no F 2 F 3yeras ago. Got go medical 30march. Questions and advice needed in advance so I can prepare for any outcome.
1. No CPN after 18years due to cut backs... will this go against me.?
2. Dr and mental health team dont call me agrophobic..just mobility problems. I have never gone out alone for approx. 15 years, and can't always do that. Should I say mobility problems as the diagnosis? as well as panic disorder.?
3. What if they have never heard of Shuzo Affective disorder ?, as I get this alot.
4.Should my career hand over the sea form he did for me before we start interview?
5.He thinks he should write a separate note pointing to key facts, would this be wise?
6. Are we expected to say that although he is my full time career, father of my Son, That due to my illness, we parted, as it affected his health, and is better for us a a family unit. We were married 15years, split ten years ago. he moved ten minutes away, and has my Son 4dayas a week. Do we need to be so personal, or wait to be asked?, as he doesn't want them to think he's just some bloke I got pregnant by if you get my drift.
7If I were asked the question of a pet, which we have... will I/he get time to say, I'm not responsible for walks etc, although the dog was got for myself as well as my Son, who cares for it?
8. I can't shake hands with a stranger I'm scared of, and don't like germs, Will this annoy them?
9. Hoe dose one get them to slow down and listen, if I'm stuttering, can't think fast enough, panic, as I don't want interview stopped, as I can't do it all over again?.. if I faint I guess they'd have no choice?
10.Is there a sink in office, if you were to actually be sick..or do you ask, and do they allow you to use a toilet?
11.If this were to happen, can my man come with me?
12.If he's asked to wait, should I need to go out of room to compose myself, do they question him in my absence?
13. Is my man allowed to asks all questions to stop until I return.
1.Even when depressed, if with a stranger, I over stare, have to much eye contact?, should I try not too, or just be as I am. as its hard to do something I cant.I also do this as I'm hard of hearing an until I got hearing aids I had to look ,as I can't understand.
14.If I don't get support group, should I ask why, and how do I do this?
15, Is it worth fighting at appeal if needed, as I'm so weary now... could you leave links on how to start if I only get drag group please
16.If it was no points and JSA...what then. Dr said she would definitely fight my case, I'd probe get emergency con to cover me, as I'm a suicide risk?
17.What do you live on money wise if I'm not fit for JSA, but can't get esa?
18.Will I get no rent help?, or is there a crisis fund.?
19 dose dla stop if I loose sea, until sorted?
20. although I get low mobility and middle care dla, I fear I won't get any now? are medicals similar to esa?
21.If I don't claim new pip when asked, as I feel its so bad for my current health, as its not only mentally decking me, but is now affecting my phisyaly,..would this be dart, and go against me with further sea claims.
22. why are we assessed so often if we have on going chronic illness?, are they hoping I will die, or give up... my man/career wants to ask an MP, but he's so busy with me, our son and his own health as he is 61 now, its all to much.
23. Dose this lima computer thing generate radon questions, or ones based on me personally.
24.If I don't understand a question, can I say that, and pause to answer.?
25. should I take old Caremworker. letter and consultants, as well as upto date Dr letter of help?, I didn't get any this time round, only gp, and that was tricky for her she said?
26.My mum and Dad said they would write a short letter if it helped stating that If I was in the group I'm in now it would be extreme serious for my health..Would this seem too pushy. Mum and dad are so upset for me, as well as angry, so I thought I would ask.
27.Many THANKS for any advice to this question, or links, and apologises for asking so much, but I feel I'm literally fighting for my life, health, an also the welfare of not only me, but my son, as he's so sad to see me go down, an fears I may go to hospital.
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